Another week as a sex therapist, and more visits from all kinds trying to find their way in a sexually varied world. Between the adulterys, the limp dicks, the libido strugglers, the horny hoards, and the fetish guys, there really is an amazing variety of sexual deviation in your average community. People can be so troubled by their desires. Maybe I just don't get what the big deal is, but I really live with an attitude of "live and let live". I'm always taken aback when someone judges my behaviour (usually without asking me my side of it,), and I live a middle class, heterosexual, more or less mainstream life. Okay with a few quirks and kinks, but that's my point- everyone has a few. I'm curious, but am aware of this whole group of people that have sexual needs that occasionally we bump into.
My aunt lives just off Church (near Wellsley ) in Toronto and takes her walk around the block talking to the plenary of tranny hookers that ply their trade in those 2 blocks. They work the sex trade to save enough money to get a sex change operation (or at least pay for the hormones, lipo, and all those cool 50's pin up clothes that they wear). You would be amazed at the numbers of straight business men client that use their services on the way home from work. Remember, everyone has something sexually that they keep hidden. I got thinking about them as I was reading this week about Chastity Bono (daughter of Sonny Bono and Cher – pictured above) who is having a sex change operation.
"Chastity Bono is having a sex change to become a man. A spokesman for Bono, born a girl to Sonny and Cher, says he "has made the courageous decision to honor his true identity" and began the sex-change process earlier this year. Publicist Howard Bragmansaid Bono is proud of his decision and hopes "that his choice to transition will open the hearts and minds of the public regarding this issue."
Here is a kid who has had their own challenges and is finding their way. The current thinking is that a flurry of the opposite hormones flooding the baby's brain in utero at a key development time during the first trimester of pregnancy causes a child born one sex, to see themselves and think of themselves as the other gender. So Cher would have had a rush of male testosterone practically before she knew she was pregnant. Something else to blame on Mothers. This isn't how sexual fetish develops however. Each and every guy I've ever met with a strong fetish (and I come across them weekly) can pinpoint the time in early adolescence when they were sexually aroused by feet, hair, rope, dominate women, a certain type of lingerie, rubber or the like. You can't fix it or cure it, you can just help someone manage it as part of theirr life. When I have am again reminded of the trials of being sexually out of step, I'm encouraged to help (if I can) and encourage people to remember that they are not alone.